You would think those three words would give you a sense of security knowing how your partner feels about you. However it’s not so it seems. Starting off the relationship with Sally and Rob was already rocky. She has always been a hard worker not a person to call in sick and very dedicated to helping others. She has a good heart but very distrusting. Many would say she is good with advise for others but she fails herself. Now Rob is an extrovert he comes across very confident and can pretty much communicate with anyone. He also has a good heart but can give advise yet come across very judgmental and misunderstood.
I know Sally believed they would overcome all of it because they loved each other. But in the end the road of destruction and toxic is how you would probably define that marriage. When Sally met Rob they spoke a lot about God. but she didn’t have the same faith or belief he did at the time. They went to the casino yet it was a sin to be involved in that type of entertainment. Rob was healed of Alcoholism yet he drank occasionally. When they would argue it would keep going till you could see both of them crushed by the words of the other.
How can you claim to love someone yet use the abuse Sally endured as a child over her head as though she deserved it. How can she tell Rob she loves him yet in the next breath say ” I Hate YOU!. As a Christian Sally was like a newborn baby. She claimed to believe but didn’t understand what it really ment. She longed for that personal relationship with our Heavenly Father yet didn’t feel she deserved his love either or that eventually he would give up on her also. You see Sally went from being outgoing and confident to insecure, scared, not able to communicate in the manner she wanted to with Rob. Those long nights of Rob talking about his past and detailed accounts with his ex’s lingered in her head. She always wondered why he felt it so important to describe it in such detail. You could say he was being open and honest and I’m all for honesty but why does our past relationship with others matter in that way? If we are saved by grace and become new when born again and forgiven then the past mistakes ect are just that.
A born-again Christian is someone who has repented of their sins and turned to Christ for their salvation, and as a result has become part of God’s family forever. All this takes place as God’s Spirit works in our lives.
You see, by nature we aren’t members of God’s family, and we don’t have any right to inherit eternal life. The reason is because of our sin. We have rebelled against God, and because of that, the Bible says, we are “separated from the life of God … due to the hardening of (our) hearts” (Ephesians 4:18). No, you may not see yourself as a bad person (and you probably aren’t)—but in God’s eyes even one sin is enough to keep you out of heaven.
But Jesus Christ came to save us and to make us part of His family forever! He did this by dying for our sins on the cross and by conquering death through His resurrection. You see, as a human being you were born into a family—and nothing can ever change that. But when we come to Christ we are spiritually reborn into another family—the family of God. The Bible says to Christ’s followers, “You have been born again … through the living and enduring word of God” (1 Peter 1:23).
It seems that Sally was going more inward as the time went on trying to love someone that in the end never felt she was good enough how she was. How she dressed, looked but to the outside virtual world you would think differently but behind closed doors the truth lingered. Rob was more interested in ministering to the virtual world then realizing ministering at home and making that the priority should of came first but he never happened. He would sit countless hours posting on Facebook ect. Dont get me wrong I believe we should always spread Gods message to anyone and everyone that will listen but he neglected her spiritually. She ended up just pulling away she would not allow him to be her spiritual leader because she didn’t feel that God intended marriage to be at Robs convenience for his wife. We all know that God hates divorce and she read and read his word and articles to figure out what she needed to do in order to remain obedient to God.
The power of prayer such a simple connection to God yet not utilized as it should be. Sally prayed asking God to show her what she needed to do. She asked him for healing. She prayed for her husband to be kept safe in his traveling to and from work. That he be kept healthy. She often prayed that they would stay faithful to each other and never take the marriage for granted. See we all know that marriage isn’t a key to bliss. We can either grow together and become closer and stronger through the trials that we are all guaranteed to have or allow the enemy to destroy it.
Unconditional Love is what our Father has for us. Doesn’t mean we aren’t corrected by him when we do wrong. But he is faithful and will not leave us regardless what others might say. Our prayers may not always be answered in our timing but his. We must submit ourselves to God completely. What about in marriage why did Sally struggle with this when it came to her own husband?
Worse, countless women have been sent back to their homes and told to submit to abusive husbands — in some cases without anyone ever speaking to him about how he treats her. Some even believe that wives who are abused cause the abuse by their lack of submission.
This false concept of submission is often used to manipulate and control women. It advocates quiet obedience and subservience, and denies a woman’s irreplaceable value in her marital relationship. It also ignores the potential for a man to be heavy-handed and unloving in his attempt to be the “ruler” of his home.
Unfortunately, some Christian leaders have contributed to this false concept of submission by overlooking the husband’s obligation to love his wife. This is an extreme misrepresentation of Paul’s intent in Ephesians 5:22-30 .
Others have accused the apostle Paul of being a male chauvinist, one who didn’t respect women or see their value. If we consider what Paul wrote within his culture, however, we see that Paul had a high view of men and women. He understood how they can best work together in marriage to reflect Christ’s love for us.
In a day when men married for money, Paul strongly stated that husbands were obligated to love their wives (see also Colossians 3:19 ). Paul’s words to husbands were revolutionary in Greco-Roman society. Most men married not for love but for financial gain. Marriages were usually arranged, and the father of the bride provided a dowry — a portion of money, clothes, jewelry, and possibly slaves.
Paul’s instructions for marriage were a breath of fresh air. His thoughts were not those of a man who degraded women and wanted to “keep them in their place.” Quite the opposite — he elevated women to a place where they are to be loved as Christ loves the church. That is pretty radical thinking!
It is significant that Paul compared a husband and a wife to Christ and the church. He regarded marriage so highly that it is used as an analogy of Christ and His relationship to the church. If the husband is the head of the wife in the same way that Christ is the head of the church, we can safely draw conclusions from the comparison of Christ’s relationship to His bride, the church.
Christ loves His bride and is her Savior. Christ gave His life for her. Likewise, the husband is to love his wife as Christ loves His church. A husband’s love should be sacrificial, nourishing, cherishing, and protective. A man should love his wife in the same way he loves his own body ( Ephesians 5:25,28 ).
The same level of devotion as required of the husband to love is required of the wife to submit ( Ephesians 5:22 ). Before looking at submission unique to a wife, though, we need to remember that Paul advocates mutual submission between believers ( Ephesians 5:21 ). No one is to demand or force another to yield; submission is voluntary. The Bible doesn’t say that it’s a husband’s responsibility to see to it that his wife submits to him.
A wife’s submission to her husband is in response to her love and devotion to the Lord first. She submits to the Lord out of a humble and grateful heart, not because she is a slave, but a servant. Likewise, biblical submission in marriage is servanthood, not enslavement. A godly wife is motivated to submit to her husband, not out of fear, self-interest, or self-protection, but out of love ( 1 Peter 3:6 ).
Scripture does not define submission as mindless obedience to a husband’s every wish or demand. Nor is it avoiding an argument at all cost. Instead, submission is a deep commitment to a person. It is choosing to work with one’s mate in a way that promotes oneness. A married couple becomes one flesh and must work as a team ( Genesis 1:26 ). Constant fighting and arguing works against a couple trying to become unified.
To illustrate, a team player must submit to the guidance of his coach. A good coach guides the team in strategy and utilizes the strengths of the players for the success of the team. A gifted player may debate a point with his coach, but there comes a point when, if they continue to disagree, the player must submit to his coach. Likewise, the wife, at times, must put aside her disagreements and follow the lead of her husband, whom God has placed in her life as the head. (Sometimes, it is not in the best interest of either the wife or the husband to submit, as in the case of abuse.)
Marriage, according to God’s design, is a relationship that returns love for love, service for service. Husbands and wives love and sacrifice for one another differently. Husbands love their wives by protecting, cherishing, and serving them. Wives submit to their husbands out of respect and love. Both the husband and the wife are given vast opportunities to show Christ’s love to one another. It is not always easy, but marriages can best reflect God’s redemptive work in our lives by following the principles of Christlike love and submission.
The answer is pretty clear they never once showed each other the love that God intended we show our spouses. They lacked respect for each other. Just because someone is a Christian longer than someone else doesn’t give us the right to put down the relationship a new Christian is trying to develop with God. We are not perfect we all sin each day. Our flesh can get in our way and the enemy knows our weakness. When you watch the movie Fireproof. You see that in the beginning the husband was so into himself and what he felt was important and so was she. She felt taken advantage of and he felt not respected or appreciated. He was on the fire department. Going into burning buildings and trying to save lives how could he be considered selfish or unloving? On the outside looking in at the surface they both had a solid marriage and had it all together. On the inside which few could see they both just became room mates. Until one day with the help of his parents he came to the cross and understood the sacrifice and unselfishness our heavenly father gave up for us. Sally and Rob claimed to love God but never made him center of the marriage. They both played rushing roulette in the marriage and it crashed. To my knowledge neither had an outside affair but Sally believed Rob was never emotionally over his past relationship. She was tired of not being enough and walked away.
I am not so sure other than the love for our own children if we understand what unconditional love is. We as servants of Christ should be doing all we can do to share the love of Christ. Not put unbelievers down to the point we push them away and play the same game the enemy does. Our marriages should reflect what God designed for it to be. When we are born again and forgiven. We have been cleansed. We don’t have the right to stand before anyone as the judge and jury. Only God himself has the right and one day each one of us regardless of what some may believe will account for how we treated others and what we did in this world.
Awaiting the New Body
1For we know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have a building from God, an eternal house in heaven, not built by human hands. 2Meanwhile we groan, longing to be clothed instead with our heavenly dwelling, 3because when we are clothed, we will not be found naked. 4For while we are in this tent, we groan and are burdened, because we do not wish to be unclothed but to be clothed instead with our heavenly dwelling, so that what is mortal may be swallowed up by life. 5Now the one who has fashioned us for this very purpose is God, who has given us the Spirit as a deposit, guaranteeing what is to come.
6Therefore we are always confident and know that as long as we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord. 7For we live by faith, not by sight. 8We are confident, I say, and would prefer to be away from the body and at home with the Lord. 9So we make it our goal to please him, whether we are at home in the body or away from it.10For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.
My prayer for you is –
I pray our Father that you reach down and heal those broken hearts that our just empty inside and fill them up with you love. I pray that each person who reads this understands how special they are for God doesn’t make mistakes. Seek forgiveness today for your sins and if you have never excepted Christ as your Lord and Savior that you seek him now. Call out to him he is waiting.